Thursday, June 28, 2007

Ethiopian Get Together


On Sunday afternoon we had another Ethiopian get together with other families who have either already adopted or are in the process. This time it was about 1 1/2 hours away in Maryland. The house was amazing. It was one of those places that you can only dream of, & the family was so wonderful as well! (I didn't get many pictures of the afternoon, sorry... but at least you can see my dream house.)


It was great to catch up with some of the couples we had met at the first one, and to also meet some new folks as well. I always feel energized after these events. I think I can get bogged down with the paperwork, and this just reminds me that our day will come too. :)

Paperwork Update: I was hoping to get our dossier in the mail today, but no such luck. Hopefully soon.

Saturday, June 23, 2007

Harry

Last night I went to a Harry Connick jr. concert with Jesse, Tamara, & Brian. The concert was at Wolf Trap. Wolf Trap is an outdoor amphitheater. You can buy tickets for either covered seats, or lawn tickets. The cool thing about lawn tickets is besides being cheaper, is that you can bring in food & wine, and have a picnic before/during the concert. So we opted to buy lawn tickets....bad idea. :)

The whole day was beautiful, but while we were driving out there it started to rain, just a bit and then it stopped, and blue skies opened up. We thought that would be it. The gates opened for the lawn 1 1/2 hours before the concert started. We got there about an hour and 15 min. before, and there were NO spots left. Well I lie there were a couple of spots...but check out our view :)


We could see a little of the very right side of the stage, so we could see when they would change the colors of the lights on the stage, but as you can see we couldn't see much more than that. What's amazing is that we had better seats then about 100 other people who were sitting to the left of us, and didn't even get to see any of the stage.


It was nice for about an hour, and then about 5 minutes before Harry came out it started to rain. It rained for about 20 minutes...stopped for about 30...and then started again. It did this for most of the concert.
The only good thing about the rain is that it did make some people pack up and leave, so for about the last 30 minutes we were able to actually see the stage & enjoy Harry's dancing! :)

Thursday, June 21, 2007

Praise God!

We have our homestudy!!!!

Thank you all so much for your prayers on this! I know it's the only reason we got it before she left on vacation! We received our completed, notarized homestudy in the mail yesterday! Like I said before our social worker is not to good with details...she didn't even write our address right on the envelope. :) But I looked over it & not one mistake! Thank you Lord!

I sent in a copy to the CIS (citizenship & immigration services) today. The CIS is basically the U.S. government approving us to adopt. We have already done our fingerprinting with them, but obviousilly they can't approve us until they can review our homestudy.

I've heard it is taking a while...about 9 weeks. I guess there is one lady who reviews them for the whole state of Virginia and she lives in West Virginia, so only comes in once a week to pick up homestudies and to drop off her recommendations.

We are getting everything together to send in our dossier tomorrow...I am so excited that we are finally moving forward! Thanks for all your prayers! We love you!

HIV/AIDS in Ethiopia

I just read about some people who are doing HIV/AIDS work in Ethiopia. Check out this trailer. I just think that it is awesome to hear about how God is using people to do some amazing things! Makes me want to move over there & join in. (I knew I should've gone to Med school!) : )

Here are some stats of the HIV/AIDS Situation in Ethiopia: (& these are usually low estimates)
- HIV Infected: 1.5 million
- AIDS Deaths: 120,000
- AIDS Orphans: 720,000

*Ethiopia's national adult prevalence for 2003 was estimated at 4.4 percent, with a 12.6 percent urban rate and a 2.6 percent rural rate. The number lost to AIDS was an estimated cumulative total of 900,000 by 2003 and is projected to reach 1.8 million by 2008 if present trends continue. Adult (15-49 years) deaths due to AIDS are expected to rise in the coming years. AIDS already accounts for about one-third of all young adult deaths in the country.*

Monday, June 18, 2007

Happy Father's Day!

God has truly blessed me with great men in my life! He started by giving me my dad. My Dad is great! He is funny, understanding, hardworking, and thoughtful. I love you Dad!



And then He gave me Jesse! I love watching Jesse and Rachel play. They have so much fun together! Jesse is a very hands on parent, and says all the time to Rachel "I love being your dad!" Awwwwww :)


Here is what Rachel wrote in Sunday School about her dad...


(click on the picture to make it bigger...make sure you can read for what she says Jesse likes to watch on T.V.)

Friday, June 15, 2007

Buy a Frosty for Dad

Thought I would pass this along.
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There are more than 150,000 foster children waiting to be adopted in North America.

This Father's Day Weekend (June 16 and 17), you can help foster children find permanent homes. All weekend, participating Wendy's restaurants across North America will donate a minimum of 50 cents from every Frosty product sold to the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption.

The goal is to raise $1 million to support the work of the Foundation's signature program, Wendy's Wonderful Kids, and you can help! Click on the web address below to watch Rockin' Frosty and then forward this email to your friends and family to spread the word about Father's Day FrostyWeekend.

http://www.davethomasfoundation.org/frosty

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Things You Need For A Homestudy...

Thought I would give you all an idea of what all goes into getting a homestudy done. & no, ours is not finished yet! We've gotten a second draft from our social worker, but I have to say it didn't look any different from the first. She still had wrong names in the homestudy, misspellings, etc. Overall though we thought the homestudy was good. Our social worker is just very bad with details (self admitted) and it's getting frustrating when details can really make a big difference. Oh well, what can we do?

So anyway.... here is a list of things we've done for the homestudy

1. Complete an application
2. Sign Contract
3. Send Money
4. Fill out a family profile questionnaire
5. sign the statement of fees form
6. sign form saying you understand and will have post placement visits
7. Fill our a reference letter form - needed four references
8. Sign an authorization to obtain info form
9. Sign the corporal punishment policy (basically saying we won't spank our kid)
10. Decide on a guardian for our children, and sign the form
11. Have our guardians sign a form
12. Copies of the last 3 years of our Federal Income Tax Fillings
13. Send in forms for a criminal History/sex offender check to the State of Virginia
14. Send in a form for a child abuse & neglect information system records check to the State of Virginia (had to be notarized)
15. Sworn Statement or Affirmation
16. DMV record checks for both Jesse & myself
17. Supplemental questionnaire
18. Medical forms for each person residing in the home
19. Copies of Birth Certificate for everyone. (has to come from vital statistics)
20. Copy of Marriage Certificate
21. Letter from employer verifying annual salary
22. Statement of Acknowledgement that we don't expect our child to be perfect.
23. Financial & Net Worth statement
24. Adoption Costs Calculations Sheet
25. Read and sign document that we have read parent preparational booklet
26. Notification of Child Placing Agency
27. Copy of a fire escape plan for our home
28. type of child requested form
29. family photo & photo of outside of home
30. a 6 page autobiography - one for Jesse & one for me


I'm so glad the Dossier that goes over to Ethiopia is not that intense! I'll write later about what all goes in there. : )

Our social worker told us on Monday that she is leaving on vacation next wednesday, and so if we want a finalized homestudy she said that our agency and ourselves need to get her any revisions by this Wednesday (tomorrow). So we need prayer. I really want to get our dossier to our agency so we can continue to move along in the process. Right now we have everything ready, we are just waiting for our finalized homestudy. Please pray that our agency can turn the revisions around fast and get them to her soon. And also pray that our social worker will be very diligent in doing a good detailed job on our homestudy. Thanks!

Monday, June 11, 2007

Canoeing


Yesterday, Tamara, Brian, Matt, Jesse, Rachel, & I all went canoeing on the Potomac River. It was a great day to be outside, and it's always fun to get out and do something a little different on the weekends. :) Although now I'm feeling a little overwhelmed with things I didn't get done yesterday. Oh well, there's always tomorrow right?!




"The Guys" & Rachel...look at Brian working so hard!


Aunt T = master rower

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Article on Ethiopian Adoptions

Here's an article that was in the New York Times this last Sunday. It's a little long, but informative.

In Ethiopia, Open Doors for Foreign Adoptions
By JANE GROSS and WILL CONNORS


ST. PAUL —
Ethiopia was not on Mark and Vera Westrum-Ostrom’ s list when they first visited Children’s Home Society & Family Services here to explore an international adoption.

From Ethiopia to Minnesota Ukraine was first, because of their family heritage, until the couple discovered that the adoption system there was chaotic, with inaccurate information about orphans’ health and availability. Vietnam was second, after they saw videos of well-run orphanages. But the wait would be at least a year and a half.

Then they learned about Ethiopia’s model centers for orphans, run by American agencies, with an efficient adoption system that made it possible for them to file paperwork on Labor Day and claim 2-year-old Tariku, a boy with almond eyes and a halo of ringlets, at Christmas.

From Addis Ababa, the capital city, they traveled to the countryside to meet the boy’s birth mother, an opportunity rare in international adoption. And at roughly $20,000, the process was affordable compared with other foreign adoptions, and free of the bribes that are common in some countries. It is no wonder, given these advantages, that Ethiopia, a country more often associated by Americans with drought, famine and conflict, has become a hot spot for international adoption.

Even before the actress Angelina Jolie put adoption in Ethiopia on the cover of People magazine in 2005, the number of adoptions there by Americans was growing. The total is still small — 732 children in 2006, out of a total of 20,632 foreign adoptions, but it is a steep increase, up from 82 children adopted in 1997.

Ethiopia now ranks 5th among countries for adoption by Americans, up from 16th in 2000. In the same period, the number of American agencies licensed to operate there has grown from one to 22. The increasing interest in Ethiopia comes at a time when the leading countries for international adoption, China, Guatemala and Russia are, respectively, tightening eligibility requirements, under scrutiny for adoption corruption and closing borders to American agencies.

Ethiopia’s sudden popularity also comes with risks, say government officials there and in America.“I don’t think we’ll be able to handle it,” said Haddush Halefom, an official at the Ministry of Women’s Affairs, which oversees adoption. “We don’t have the capacity to handle all these new agencies, and we have to monitor the quality, not just the quantity.”

Capping the number of agencies is one solution. And that is what some international adoption officials in the United States are now urging the Ethiopian government to do.

Of concern is the ability of agencies to handle the rising demand, which may have contributed to a recent mix-up involving two families sent home with the wrong children by Christian World Adoption, an established agency, although relatively new to Ethiopia. That case prompted inquiries by the State Department and the nonprofit Joint Council on International Children’s Services in Virginia, a child welfare and advocacy organization, and the adoption agency itself, said Thomas DiFilipo, president of the joint council.

Officials at Christian World Adoption did not reply to e-mail messages or telephone calls. But Mr. DiFilipo said the agency was reviewing its procedures and has hired immigration lawyers to resolve the mix-up.The consensus, Mr. DiFilipo said, is that the mix-up was “an honest mistake.” But, he added, “This could be the byproduct of a staff handling 35 placements when they’re used to handling 20.”

Children’s Home Society & Family Services, founded in 1889, began working in Ethiopia in 2004. The agency completed about 300 adoptions in its first three years in Ethiopia, and expects to complete that many in 2007 alone. Along with Wide Horizons For Children in Waltham, Mass., the society is credited with helping Ethiopia create a model for international adoption.

Ethiopia, with a population of 76 million, has an estimated 5 million children who have lost one or both parents, according to aid organizations. Many African nations have outlawed or impeded the adoption of their children by foreigners.

Ethiopia has welcomed American and European families who are willing to provide homes for children who have lost both parents to AIDS, malaria, tuberculosis or starvation, or who come from families too destitute to feed and clothe them. (The adoption process includes routine screening for HIV infection.)

Two elements distinguish Ethiopia’s adoption system, according to dozens of experts. One is the existence of transitional homes for orphans, in the countryside and in the capital, with services and staffing that are rare in the developing world — paid for by American agencies.

Not long ago, Sandra Iverson, a nurse practitioner from the University of Minnesota’s international adoption health clinic, the first of its kind in the United States, was invited to visit the Children’s Home Society’s Ethiopian centers. She arrived with a neonatal otoscope, to diagnose ear infections; the Red Book, the bible of pediatrics; and scarce antibiotics. She left confident that Ethiopia’s orphans enjoyed unusual care. “You don’t hear crying babies,” Ms. Iverson said. “They are picked up immediately.”

The other signature of the Ethiopian system is that adopting families are encouraged to meet birth families and visit the villages where the children were raised, a cutting-edge practice in adoptions. Some agencies provide DVDs or photographs that document the children’s past.

Russ and Ann Couwenhoven, in Ham Lake, Minn., recently showed one such video to 6-year-old Tariku, one of three children they have adopted from Ethiopia. The boy seemed proud of the beautifully painted house he had lived in, they said, and the uncle who had sheltered him for as long as he could.

Linda Zwicky brought 2-year-old Amale home five days before the Memorial Day weekend, with a letter from the child’s grandmother that described holding the motherless infant at her breast even though she had no milk. Sometimes such vividness is too much. Melanie Danke and her husband, of Minneapolis, adopted 6-year-old twins and a 3-year-old, all siblings. One of the twins “would work herself up until she was inconsolable” looking at photos of the aunt and grandmother who raised her, Ms. Danke said. So she has tucked the photos away for now.

David Pilgrim, vice president of adoption services at the Children’s Home Society, said the agency spends $2 million a year on its Ethiopian facilities. At the main transitional home, on the outskirts of Addis Ababa, a staff of 170 care for about 120 children, ensuring that the children have consistent contact with adults, which experts say mitigates the most damaging psychological effects of institutionalization.

During a reporter’s recent visit, the two terra-cotta buildings where the children live, usually for no more than a few months, were spotless, with staff members scurrying to pick up toys and food spills as they hit the floor. The transitional home has a primary school, open also to local students, where the children begin learning English. There is a medical clinic with two full-time doctors and 10 nurses. Down the road is a guest house for adoptive parents, who also can stay in a sleek hotel.

The children also enjoy the services of a “laugh therapist,” Belachu Girma.“These kids come here and are very depressed at first, all with their heads down and not talking,” Mr. Girma said. “I come in and try to help them relax.”

There was laughter also at the nearby guest house, more of the nervous kind, as American parents waited to take their children back to St. Paul from the Horn of Africa.

Araminta and Jason Montague, from Atlanta, who picked up 17-month-old Natan last week, compared their experience in Ethiopia to an earlier adoption of a girl from China (where Americans adopted 6,493 children in 2006). “Our daughter was in an orphanage with about 300 children and she was very dehydrated,” Ms. Montague said. “We were never told her origins. Her sheet just said ‘Status: Abandoned.’ ”

Some parents anguished, as did Karla Suomala of Decorah, Iowa, when she arrived in Addis Ababa to adopt 5-year-old Dawit and his 21-month-old sister Meheret. “It’s hard to know what the right thing is to do,” Ms. Suomala said. “Should we just give all the money we’re spending on this to the children’s mother?” Ms. Suomala and her husband, David Vasquez, had already spent time with her. “It was obvious the birth mother loved her children,” Mr. Vasquez said. “She said to us, ‘Thank you for sharing my burden.’ ”

Alessandro Conticini, the head of child protection at Unicef Ethiopia, is one of many who believe that international adoption is a good thing but must be “part of a larger strategy” that focuses on keeping children in their families or communities, with the help of humanitarian organizations.

Indeed, the Ethiopian government has taken the unusual step of requiring foreign agencies to provide social services and document the results. As a result, agencies like Children’s Home Society and Wide Horizons have built schools and medical facilities — including one for HIV-infected children. But Mr. Conticini, of Unicef, worries about the mushrooming number of private adoption companies that “are not properly regulated by the government” because two different ministries are involved and working at cross purposes.

At the State Department, visa applications for children adopted from Ethiopia are getting extra attention, said Catherine M. Barry, deputy assistant secretary for overseas citizens services. “We will very quickly see if patterns are emerging,” she said, “and we will intervene in a timely fashion with anyone doing less than quality work.”

While the governments collaborate to protect a delicate adoption system from the perils of growth, adoptive families arrive each week in Addis Ababa to ease their children into new lives. Last week, these included Mr. Vasquez and Ms. Suomala. While she had no trouble escorting Meheret from the orphanage, Dawit refused to budge, so Mr. Vasquez carried him toward the gate. There, the child grabbed the bars and would not let go. Mr. Vasquez considered prying his hands loose and thought better of it. Instead he told Dawit that it was O.K. to cry.